Enjoying Sex During Menopause (& After)

There is a myth that because you’re going through the menopause that your sex life is over, but this is not the case. Navigating the terrain of sex during menopause is often scary territory for many women, but with the education and breakdown of taboo conversations, we can break down these scares.  

As bodies undergo profound hormonal shifts, sexual experiences can become a complex interplay of physical and emotional changes. Yet, despite its significance, discussions around sex during menopause remain shrouded in taboo and discomfort. At EXS, we recognise the importance of addressing this sensitive yet crucial aspect of women's health. Our mission is to create a safe, informative space for discussion where women can find support, guidance, and empowerment in embracing their sexuality during and after menopause. Join us, the sex experts at EXS as we explore, educate, and celebrate sex during menopause. 

Understanding Menopause   

Menopause marks a significant transition, signalling the end of the function of the reproductive system. It typically occurs between the ages of 45 and 55, encompassing three distinct stages: perimenopause, menopause, and post-menopause.  

• Perimenopause, often starting in a woman's 40s, brings hormonal fluctuations leading to irregular menstrual cycles, hot flushes, mood swings, and changes in libido. These hormonal changes can also affect sexual health, with symptoms like vaginal dryness becoming more pronounced. 
• During menopause, defined by the absence of menstrual periods for twelve consecutive months, hormonal levels continue to decline, intensifying symptoms like hot flushes, mood disturbances, and sexual changes such as vaginal dryness and discomfort during intercourse. 
• In post-menopause, which follows menopause, many symptoms may subside, but long-term effects on sexual health persist. Seeking professional medical advice is crucial for effectively managing symptoms and maintaining overall well-being. Healthcare providers can offer personalised guidance and support, including hormone replacement therapy and lifestyle modifications, to help women navigate this transition with confidence and vitality. It's also a great opportunity to spice things up and try different things in the bedroom. 

Sexual Health and Menopause  

Menopause can significantly impact sexual health, bringing about changes in arousal, desire, and orgasms which can affect intimate relationships. Women may experience a decrease in libido, making it challenging to feel sexually aroused or interested in sexual activity. These hormonal changes during menopause can lead to vaginal dryness, making intercourse uncomfortable or painful. In addition to all the physical symptoms of menopause, emotional changes can have an impact on day to day life and can create barriers to sexual intimacy.  

However, it's essential to recognise that there are strategies for navigating these challenges and maintaining sexual pleasure and connection. Using lubricants can help alleviate vaginal dryness and discomfort during intercourse, making intimacy more enjoyable.  

 Practical Tips for Enjoyable Sex  

• Explore non-penetrative sexual activities – this includes things such as mutual masturbation or sensual massages. Focus on Sensuality such as sensual massages, kissing, cuddling, and mutual masturbation. Emphasising these aspects of intimacy can enhance pleasure and strengthen emotional bonds. 

• Try new things – Consider using sex toys or devices designed to enhance pleasure and arousal. There are various products available that can stimulate erogenous zones and increase sexual satisfaction. 

• Explore positions – certain positions help to release the tension making it more comfortable. Experiment with different sexual positions, techniques, and activities that are comfortable and pleasurable for both you and your partner. Take your time to discover what works best for you now. 

• Communication - this is key; discussing desires, concerns, and preferences openly can foster understanding and strengthen emotional bonds. 

• Use Lubricants: Decreased oestrogen levels during menopause can lead to vaginal dryness. Using lubricants can help reduce discomfort and increase pleasure during intercourse. We offer flavoured lubricants if you are wanting to explore the non-penetrative sexual activities. 

• Try Hormone Therapy: Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) can alleviate symptoms of menopause, including vaginal dryness and decreased libido, which can positively impact sexual enjoyment. However, it's essential to discuss the risks and benefits with your healthcare provider. 

EXS: Helping your Sexual Wellness Through Menopause  

Enjoying sex shouldn’t stop once you enter menopause. Let EXS be your partner in maximising pleasure and intimacy in the bedroom, empowering you to enjoy and explore the depths of your sexual potential. We offer a comprehensive range of products to help enhance your intimate moments.