National Orgasm Day: Your Guide to Pleasure

So… let’s talk about orgasms.

They’re great, obviously. But they’re not always guaranteed, and they’re definitely not one-size-fits-all. Whether you're riding solo, getting busy with a partner, or exploring what feels good for the first time, National Orgasm Day is the perfect excuse to normalise the chat, ditch the pressure, and focus on your pleasure.

Because here's the thing: the orgasm gap is real. Studies have consistently shown that women, non-binary folks, and people with vulvas are far less likely to climax during sex than men, especially in heterosexual relationships. 

And that’s not OK.

At EXS, we believe everyone deserves safe, satisfying sex, with or without the Big O. So, in honour of the day, here’s your cheeky, no-BS guide to better orgasms, better communication, and feeling good in your own skin.

1. There’s No Right Way to Orgasm

Some people moan. Some don’t. Some take 2 minutes, others take 20. Some need a toy, a hand, or even just a little mental foreplay. All of it’s normal. You’re normal.

Don't stress if your journey to orgasm doesn’t look like a movie montage.

2. Solo Sex = Self-Care

Masturbation isn't just something you do in secret with the curtains drawn. It's a brilliant way to understand your body, learn what feels good, and boost your mood (thanks, endorphins). Pair it with a condom and your favourite lube to keep things clean and comfy.

Try: EXS Lube or 

3. Communication is Hot

Whether it's a long-term partner or a casual hook-up, talking about what turns you on is sexy. It’s also essential. Use National Orgasm Day as a cue to check in, or share something new you’d like to try.

Need inspo? Check out our blog on 6 sex positions to try. 

4. Quality Products Help, Too

We’re not saying a condom will guarantee an orgasm (if only). But the right protection removes stress, and that helps everyone relax. EXS condoms are triple tested (air burst, water tested, and electronically tested), vegan-friendly, NHS approved, and come in a bunch of sizes and styles.

Think: ultra-thin Air Thin for premium quality that is so thin you can barely feel you’re wearing anything at all. 

Final Thought: It’s Not About the Finish Line

Pleasure isn’t always about the orgasm. It’s about feeling good, safe, respected, and free to explore what works for you. So whether you’re climaxing like a firework or just enjoying the journey, you’re doing it right.

Happy National Orgasm Day, lovers 💛